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Matthew Hussey explains why intensity early on doesn't mean someone is serious about you. People mistake their own growing feelings for the other person's commitment. Time is the only way to see if someone's actions actually match their words.
Matthew Hussey explains why intensity early on doesn't mean someone is serious about you. People mistake their own growing feelings for the other person's commitment. Time is the only way to see if someone's actions actually match their words.
There is a real danger in assuming that someone's attention increasing is a sign of emotional availability and real intention to make it go somewhere. It's easy to mistake intensity of feeling with seriousness of purpose, especially if you feel your own level of commitment growing, and you just assume that seriousness and intensity go hand in hand for them in the same way that they do for you. This is why it's usually safer to take your time with someone, not for any prudish reasons, but just because time is the only way to measure the most reliable outward marker of intention. Consistency Inconsistency usually shows up uncomfortably early, but consistency can only be appreciated over time. Going slow gives consistency the time it needs to show up, and it gives actions a chance to catch up to words and feelings.
