Matthew Hussey argues that relationships fail not because people aren't their best selves, but because they let insecurity and heartbreak turn them into their worst selves. He offers a free guide outlining four steps to either rekindle a relationship or move on with confidence.
Because the thing that I've learned in this area, everyone always says, Just be your best, be your best self, be your best self. You gotta be your best self. Just be your best self. I'm trying to live my best life. I'm trying to be my best self. Here's the problem. Here's the problem with that. It's easy to be your best self when everything's going well. It's easy to be your best self when you're feeling fit and healthy, when work's going well, when your partner's telling you that they love you ten times a day, when you feel great. It's easy to be your best self. We ruin relationships when we are at our worst. When we're our worst selves. There's this quote that's falsely, I believe, attributed to Marilyn Monroe. I'm not sure she ever said it, but there was a quote attributed to her that is, if you can't accept me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. What a ridiculous notion that is. What a recipe for any excuse. Imagine if I said to you about an abusive husband, if you can't accept him at his worst, you don't deserve him at his best. What? This is nonsense. This is literally the mantra of a narcissist. No. Our worst self has the potential to do awful things. To do extraordinarily insecure things. Everyone in this room has done something really insecure that they've looked back on and gone, I cannot believe I did that. I cannot believe I did that. That was stalker-esque. That was like me playing an MI5 agent for a day. That was creepy as shit. What the fuck was I thinking? That was some crazy shit and I did that. And you know that's not you. You know that's not normally you, but like, you did it. You did it. Everyone's had that. Everyone's done something they're not proud of. And it wasn't 'cause you were trying to be your best and you fell short. It was because you allowed your worst self to take over in that moment and your worst self was under the dictatorship of your emotions in that moment. It's not just about being our best, it's about managing our worst. Not just being my best self, but managing my worst self. One of the great tragedies in life is not when something ends because we weren't good enough at our best, it's when something ends because we were too destructive at our worst. and there are two times where we get really destructive. One is when we're insecure inside a relationship. The other is when a relationship is ending or has already ended and we're feeling heartbroken and we go to our worst state of mind. Because our worst state of mind produces the worst kinds of actions. There's certainly not the kind of actions that get someone back who we want to rekindle it with. And they're not the kinds of actions that get us over someone and into the next chapter of our lives. I have something for you right now. It is a free guide that details four crucial steps that you need to take that will allow you to do one of these two things. Either rekindle a relationship that was right for you from a powerful state of mind or move on and find someone better from a powerful state of mind. All you need to do to get that guide is go to gethim or getoverhim.com and inside that guide you'll be able to get access to those four crucial steps right now. Go to gethimorgetoverhim.com and finally get back to your strong, confident, beautiful, sexy self.
