This is a YouTube video titled "The Compliment He's Dying To Hear (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)" created on September 21, 2014. The content features Matthew AI delivering a monologue or lesson about the importance of openly expressing genuine compliments to others, emphasizing how recognizing unique qualities can deepen connections. The video is a personal coaching or motivational talk by Matthew Hussey.
Today's lesson is based on something we all kind of know inherently, but I want to make it more specific. The old school rule in human dynamics is people like people who like them, right? If you show that you like someone, they're more likely to like you. Maybe that isn't obvious to a lot of people, Jamerson. I think a lot of people don't act like that's obvious. It's a fundamental truth is that when we show that there's something we like in someone else, they're more likely to like us. The reason I want to make this more specific is I feel like it's something we don't do nearly enough with each other is just be obvious, be blatant about what we like about someone else. We often go away thinking things and we then tell a third person. We go away from an interaction and we go to a third person and we say, I really like so and so because. But to do that is to miss the benefit in a way of having that thought thought, because if you were actually to give it to the person you thought that about, they're far more likely to like you, they're far more likely to be thinking about you. I even remember being 11 years old at a school disco and I was on the dance floor with a bunch of people dancing and I did this funny spin just to be silly and there was a guy there who looked at me and he goes, you,'re fun, you. I like you, you're fun. Immediately it created this warm feeling because I was like, he thinks I'm fun. You know, I've never forgotten it. That was, I was 11 years old. I've never forgotten it my whole life. How many people in your life do you not give those compliments to when they come into your head? Because that, by the way, that's the time to do it, is the moment you feel something or the moment you, you think about it, just tell them. Just be honest about it. I had a couple of friends come to visit me in Los Angeles. maybe two, three weeks ago. There was a friend that I have in LA who met two of my friends from back home and she was sitting with my friends from back home and one of my guys from back home made this funny dry, very dry and English comment and she looked at him and she went, you,'re funny. She goes, you,'re wow, you're funny. And she said it, it was like in her head immediately. She didn't hold back, she just said it. We never saw her again the whole trip. but he wouldn't stop talking about her and referencing her because she'd seen something in him. And that's something we don't do enough. We don't recognize the great qualities in each other. By the way, if you wanna take this to a more advanced level, don't just recognize the same obvious quality that everybody else does. Look for that thing that they do well that perhaps isn't complimented all that often. People are so used to getting complimented on the 10% of themselves that everybody sees. you know, that person who's pretty is used to being called pretty a lot. That person who is always funny is used to being called funny. But we're used to 90% of our personalities not being recognized, not being credited. Well, if you could be the one person who seeks out that 90%, that part that other people don't see and compliments people on it, you're going to glow to everybody around you. They will think about you differently as the person who either gets them or sees something in them that other people don't or sees their potential, but you'll hold a very special place in their mind and in their heart. That's it for today. I'll see you soon. Follow me on Facebook. I'm at facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey and that's it. I'll see you in the next video.
