The speaker defines "choosing yourself" as staying firm to your personal values despite external pressures or relationships that might nudge you away. The practical side emphasizes writing out a true value system (distinct from hobbies or superficial preferences) and acting on it even when it's difficult; the speaker shares a personal anecdote about repeatedly choosing a partner over themselves.
What does choosing yourself mean and what is the practical side of that? Yeah, so choosing yourself means making sure that you are always firm on your values, no matter what, somebody else coming along trying to change them or even just like nudge them over. So it is making sure that you are always, you know, your North Star and someone doesn't come along with a different compass to lead you astray. And even if you love them, even if you want to be with them, So choosing yourself when it's not easy. And I didn't do that over and over and over again. I chose him. I kept choosing him instead of myself. So I think it comes back to like write out your value system. And what I mean by that is not like I like this music or your hobbies. A lot of people would write out their hobbies when you say your value system. It isn't that value system is like I value family and friendships over business and money.
