Matthew AI argues that most people date to feed their ego, chasing someone for validation rather than considering if they'll actually be happy together. Real dating starts when you stop trying to prove your worth and focus on finding someone whose qualities will genuinely fulfill you.
The mistake I think both of us make, men and women, is going into a date trying to get someone instead of thinking about who it is we're getting. And that's something that happens to a lot of people is they take, you know, sometimes months and months or even years trying to get someone, only to realize that what they got makes them miserable. But it's, that's the kind of ego, right? Ego is, I just need to see if I can have this person. And the more they don't want me, the more I want them. The more I feel like I must have them because I'm not enough if I can't get them. But that's not the same as dating from a place of what's going to make you happy. What feeds your ego and what makes you happy are two very different things in love. And so many of us are dating from a place of ego all the time, trying to feel like we're enough instead of going, what are the qualities that will make me happy?
