Matthew Hussey explains why we pick the wrong partners: we chase people who make us feel desirable or successful, not people we can actually be ourselves with. We cast for the movie trailer, not the marriage.
A lot of what we think we want in love is just noise. Your ego says I want someone who proves I'm desirable, successful, good enough. But our long term happiness wants someone we can fully be ourselves with. The problem is, we often choose partners like we're casting a movie. Impressive on paper, exciting to talk about, but completely wrong for the role of actual partner in real life.
