Matthew Hussey explains why first dates trick us: we mistake the rush of feeling understood for actual compatibility. That immediate vibe is just impact. Real character only shows up over time through consistent behavior.
Character can only be seen over time. Impact is something you can feel on a first date. And so many people mistake impact for character on date one. Like, you don't understand. I felt amazing. I went home and I just felt so connected to this person. I felt like they understood me. I felt like we come from similar places. I felt like they're with their family how I am with mine. And it just feels like this whole picture, you haven't seen anything about this person's character. All you've seen is their impact. You don't know anything about this person.
