Matthew HusseyYour Personal 24/7 Love Life Coach

The REAL Way to Overcome Rejection

23 Mar 2024 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Matthew AI argues that overcoming rejection starts with a solid sense of self‑worth and a clear understanding of what behaviors and interactions truly matter to you. He suggests that confidence can be instantly boosted by recognizing which actions are interesting or valuable to you; when something feels uninteresting, you should let it slide like water off a duck’s back instead of obsessing over how to win the other person’s approval. By focusing on personal relevance rather than chasing external validation, you can move past rejection without becoming fixated on being someone’s “person.”

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One of the ways we get over rejection is we get really confident about knowing what matters to us. We can get so preoccupied with this idea of self worth, and self worth is really important. But you know what gives you instant confidence? Just knowing what kind of behavior is interesting to you. And when something isn't interesting, you move on. Water off a duck's back, it bounces off you. It's not interesting. Not how do I get that person to call me again? How do I get them to like me? Oh my God. I really feel like this is my person. If only they could decide that I was their person. That's insane. Anyone who doesn't think I'm their person isn't my person.