Matthew Hussey argues that endless swiping and browsing have made us superficial. When you slow down and actually get curious about people, they reveal sides of themselves that create real attraction. Stop treating dating like Netflix.
So what do we actually, what do you want to do? I want to make a video Jameson. Just do your thing where you point the camera and I talk. I wanted to get out into the world for this video and make something for everyone out there who says they never meet anyone they actually like or they never meet anyone who's actually relationship potential. Now I get it, people you like aren't everywhere, they're not on every street corner. But if you find yourself perpetually in a place where you're scrolling through hundreds and hundreds of people on a dating app and you never find anyone you're attracted to, or you go out night after night and never see anyone who's relationship potential, then there might be a reason for that. I have one possible answer for you. Have you ever spent an entire night doing this? [Speaking of] Think of yourself when you're picking a movie on Netflix. The way we mindlessly browse through movies. We talk about how there's nothing good on there, on a platform with thousands and thousands of options. And we get to a point where we've been browsing for 20 minutes or 30 minutes and we still haven't found anything. And the only thing we have to go by is a picture on a screen and a brief description of what it is. then we superficially trash everything that comes along and say, I don't feel like that. I don't feel like that. I don't feel like that. And yet there's so many good movies. The way to enjoy a movie night is to watch a movie, not to spend our whole lives circling through thousands of movies in life. When it comes to people, I think that we have to be a little less superficial, a little less transactional, a little less judgy on first sight of whether someone is our type or relationship potential and actually start getting interested in people because people become more interesting when we get more interested. We have to go about life like there are plenty of interesting people in it and we're gonna get to know them. And by getting to know people and showing curiosity, it's far more likely that we'll find someone that surprises us, that has an interesting story, that has an outlook on life that is particularly appealing to us. I know and you probably know that if someone were to come up to you or me and not be interested in us, show no curiosity, we'll be the least interesting people on earth. But when people actually start to ask us interesting questions and dig a little deeper and take the time to get to know us, we start to blossom, we start to become more interesting. Let's start doing that for other people. And my question for you today, and leave me a comment, I wanna know what you think of this. When was a time when someone showed an extra level of interest in you that allowed your most interesting side to come out? Tell me that story in the comments and I will see you next week.
