In this monologue, Matthew Hussey (presented as “Matthew AI”) argues that many people prematurely burn bridges when ending professional or personal relationships—whether firing an employee, breaking up with a partner, or leaving a job. He contends that relationships are often cyclical; the same people can reappear in new roles or capacities later. The way a separation is handled—especially the tone and respect shown—determines whether future reconnection is possible. Hussey advises leaving relationships with class and elegance, preserving respect, and being mindful of the other party’s pride, because bruised pride can block mutually beneficial opportunities down the line. He urges listeners to reflect on whether their current actions are making it harder for former contacts to return, emphasizing that maintaining goodwill preserves a network of potential future collaborators or partners.
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There is a very important concept for relationships that I want to talk about. I believe that we are burning too many of our relationship bridges with either people that we employ when we fire them, with maybe even our partners when we break up with them, with jobs that we leave, if it's a boss and you decide to leave the way you end that I think too many of us are burning our bridges with people because many of us operate under the mistaken assumption that when we leave a situation with somebody, we're not going to be going back to that person at any point. I've come to realize that life is far less black and white when it comes to our relationships than people like to believe. Not only that, but I think relationships are, in a strange way, cyclical. They have a way of coming back around. if you're, you know, owner company, you decide to let someone go today. And the way you let them go is either gonna create a situation whereby later on, if you need to go back to them, you can, or it's gonna create a situation where you feel you can't go back to them because the way you handled it. See, even in that situation, it's quite common for you to think you're never gonna wanna use that person again for anything. And then six months later, there's a project and you go, oh, I could use that person now. But whether you feel you can go back to that person at this stage depends on how you ended it when you ended it. And too many people are really short sighted with the way that they deal with people. They, there's almost like a, well, I, there's a kind of a flippant nature with like, well, I don't, I'm not going to need this person again. I'm getting rid of them now from my company because they haven't been performing. So I'm not going to be using them. Or they think, you know, I'm breaking up with this person. I'm never going to need them again for anything. So I can say whatever I like. at this stage. Or they say it to a friend, you know, I'm never gonna be friends with this person again, so I'll burn my bridges or I'll say whatever I want. The reality is that people have a strange way of coming back into our lives, and it may not be in the same capacity they were there before. I'm not saying be careful in what you say when you break up with someone, 'cause maybe they'll be your boyfriend again a year from now. I'm not necessarily saying that, but you might find that, you know, we've all got to be aware that those relationships that we've invested time in can still serve us in the future if we remain on good terms in those relationships. If we leave with class and elegance, those relationships in some capacity will still be available to us later on. and I have found that I've where I've kept things good with people, even when I'm, you know, sometimes that's tough because you're saying to someone, listen, I don't want to work with you anymore because of this, this and this. But I still respect you on these fronts. And I still think, you know, at some point in the future, our paths may cross again. And, you know, I think highly of you and whatever you, you know, sometimes it means playing both sides a little bit because, you know, that at some point in the future, you may actually want to go back to that person. Or guess what? If you've left it on good terms, they'll feel like they can come back to you. The key question for me is this. Is anything I'm doing right now making it really difficult for this person to come back to me in the future if we were ever having to reunite in some way? Is there anything that I'm doing right now that would truly damage their pride to the point where their pride would get in the way of them connecting with me again, even if connecting meant something good for both of us. Because if people have to overcome, if you've bruised people's pride in the way you part ways, something great can come up that's mutually beneficial later on. and you still won't have the benefit of it if someone is still clinging on to the way that you dealt with them before. So respect your standard. Leave relationships that you have to leave, whether they're business or personal, but leave them in a manner that doesn't make it impossible to go back to them in the future or make it impossible for them to come back to you. It will serve you not to burn your bridges. After all, if you've put all of that time into the relationships in the first place, why wouldn't you still want them available to you in some capacity later on?
