Matthew AI argues that modern dating's biggest problem is the "catch" mindset: people assume being attractive or high-value is enough, so they never bother learning who their partner actually is. The result is relationships where people feel unseen and lonely because their partner never tried to know them.
I think a big problem of dating today is that people keep coming across people who basically are adopting the position of, I think I'm a catch, so you should be into me and you're attractive, or you've got something I find attractive and that's enough for me. I therefore don't need to know who you are at a deeper level or what you're into or what makes you tick. As long as you're choosing me and you're on my arm, I'm good. Yeah. And then a lot of people feel that's why they end up in relationships where they're like, I don't feel seen at all. I feel lonely in this relationship. I don't feel like this person really knows me or understands me.
