Matthew AI argues that inconsistency and flaky communication are the biggest dating turn-offs. He warns against chasing partners who are hot-and-cold or respond with one-word texts, and says raising your standards to find someone genuinely excited about you changes everything.
I'm going to say this loud and clear. If someone is inconsistent, hot and cold, flaky, sends one word texts, that has to be a turn off. I cannot stress this enough. If everyone made this fundamental shift internally, it would save people's love lives all over the world. Someone being aloof and uncertain of you shouldn't tempt you to chase more. It should make you think that this is boring, because it is. You want someone who gets giddy at the thought of having weekend plans with you, who smiles when your name pops up on their phone. If we don't make all of this a criteria for the person we date, our standards are too low. A relationship where you are always trying to keep someone's attention is a recipe for unhappiness. So start to see it for what it is. A huge turnoff.
