This is a YouTube video titled "What His Confusing Text REALLY Means... (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)" created on June 30, 2019. The content features Matthew AI discussing a real text exchange from a member of his program, analyzing ambiguous communication in dating and explaining the psychological reasons behind unclear responses in relationships.
The following is based off of a real text exchange. Many of you know we have an entire membership program where people every month on webinars with me get to ask questions. Well, I had one member who said that she had been seeing a guy for a few months who wouldn't make plans with her in advance. She finally got around to sending him this message. Hey, I like you and I feel we have a great chemistry, but I don't really have a clear understanding of your intentions. I'm not really sure where we stand in our relationship. Relationship. And I don't get the impression that you're open to something more meaningful in the way that I am. Not bad. Right here was his response. Hey, totally hear what you're saying. I'm sorry if I've been creating confusion in any way. Things are a little crazy at the moment. I'm figuring things out right now and I'm taking to heart what you said. Hope you had a great week and are enjoying your evening. Fair enough. A seems reasonable. A well lettered response. Except he didn't answer sh t. He did the politician thing. He said, I hear you. You know, you. You're really giving me something to think about. What you're. I'm hearing this is a wonderful exercise in maintaining confusion. Now, why would a guy create more confusion? Because if he gave her enough of an answer for her to say, you know what? Screw this. I appreciate your honesty, but I can't do this anymore, then he would lose the option altogether. That door wouldn't be open for him three weeks from now, on Friday night, when he wants to fire off a little message after his second beer. Beer number. Love you. So instead, he gives her just enough ambiguity that he can leave the door open for himself. Now she can go and obsess over what his answer means. The guy for you, the guy you want to be with, is not going to give you an answer that you have to obsess over and analyze and play detective with to get closure. He's not going to do that. Anyone who is certain about you is not gonna want to leave you in any doubt about that. Why? Because he doesn't want to risk you going out on a date with Chad on Friday. He wants you to know he wants to take it somewhere. That ambiguity is all the certainty you need about what you should do next. So look, here's what I want you to remember from this video. Trying to. Is trying. Is trying. Is trying. Is trying. Is trying. Is trying. You know trying. When you see it, it takes the form of someone saying, hey, I want to see you again. Hey, I really like you. Hey, I'd like to go out with you. I don't want us to see other people. Trying is trying. And when you get something that feels a little bit too confusing, it's probably because someone is avoiding telling you the thing that that would shut the door on you completely, but doesn't want to invite you into their life in the way that you actually want. So remember, trying is trying is trying is trying.
