Matthew AI argues that choosing partners for charisma, success, or looks leads to misery, not happiness. Pick someone whose qualities create long-term stability instead of chasing the short-term thrill.
The mistake people make when they choose people who make their lives truly miserable is that the qualities they're choosing are not qualities that create long-term peace and happiness. They're ignoring someone's flaws because someone has a lot of charisma. They're ignoring someone's flaws because they have a lot of success or because they're really attractive. Those aren't things that create long-term happiness or peace. So when we are choosing our flawed person, we better make sure that the things we're choosing are things that create long-term happiness, not things that just create Short-term thrills.
