Shan Boodram explains why people ghost after sex: men often pursue partners they don't see as long-term matches, and research shows men select partners below their standards while women select at or above theirs. The decision about the relationship is made before sex happens, not after.
7–12 minutes
Why do I always get ghosted or friend zoned after sex?
Oh, long story short, right, For a lot of people, the pursuit of sex is the fun part of it. And there's also studies that will show that people, particularly men, will tend to have sex with people that they don't necessarily think are good romantic partners. So in traditional sense, women tend to have sex with people that are either equal to their standards or above their standards, whereas men tend to have sex with people who are equal below, way below someone that they just met 10 minutes ago. So that's also a bit of it too, is that it's not necessarily having sex with you that change their perception of you. It's that they already decided, you know, what capacity you guys can have, a connection. And then this was just an opportunity to see if you can extend that for, you know, seven to 12 minutes, which is the average time it takes for people to orgasm. I think that it's important to note that I think the decision is usually had in advance of where this relationship is going to go.
