Matthew Hussey argues that chasing unavailable or high-status people leaves you feeling mistreated and miserable. Instead, build your romantic decisions around a core list: connection, kindness, compassion, empathy, loyalty. Use it as your North Star, not their status or looks.
Chasing the right things means looking at what are the qualities that bring me peace? What are the qualities that actually make me happy? Connection, kindness, compassion, empathy, loyalty, someone being there for me. Understand what that list is and those things have to be your North Star in everything you do in your love life. Not to be deviated from because someone is exceptionally attractive or because they have a lot of status or a lot of money or because they have a million followers on Instagram. They must be important. An important person likes me. This feels really good. Anyone who has been down that path in their life of trying to be with someone because they're important and feeling good because an important person likes them, even though that important person treats them like crap. Anyone who has been down that path knows hell awaits.
