People-pleasers who lack self-respect attract manipulators, while those seeking independence and mutual admiration get pushed away. Going with the flow in dating makes you an ideal target for control, creating a cycle of exploitation.
People find themselves over and over again in relationships where they feel taken advantage of and never with people where there's mutual respect and admiration. And that's because usually the people who respect themselves and want to be around someone who is an independent human being will get pushed away by that behavior. When you're people pleasing and just going with the flow constantly in dating, and the people who know they can manipulate you will stick around because you're precisely the kind of target they were looking for.
