Matthew AI argues that slowing down in dating filters out love bombers and people unwilling to make real sacrifices. Moving fast pressures you into major life changes like relocating for someone who isn't serious. A measured pace prevents costly mismatches and gets you to healthy relationships faster.
Go slow to go fast. Because when we take our time with people, we actually weed out all of these people that we've assumed are angels, but are love bombers, people that aren't serious, people that don't want a relationship, they just want an experience, and they'll say anything to create an experience. People who want you to move jobs or towns or your whole life to be with them on a whim and minimize the impact that that would have on your life to do so. People who expect you to make 10 times the amount of sacrifice and compromise so that they can have this wonderful experience of being in love. And then you find out six months later that they're not on the same page as you at all. That they haven't made the giant sacrifices that you have made. That they were just in the market for an experience. You don't know any of these things in the beginning. So we go slow to go fast.
