After a great first date, people rush to lock someone in without seeing who they actually are. Real character shows up over time, not in a few hours. Slow down and watch what they do before you decide.
Sometimes we jump to the. We jump the gun. We go too fast, we say things just to try to, like, reel them in.
Well, that's exactly right.
That's the problem.
We're so busy trying to get something that we don't think about what the consequences of that are. And we also forget that we don't know this person. You just had the most magical first date in the world, and you think so much of this person, and this could be it. And you've literally spent two hours with someone, you have no idea who they are. You don't know who they are. When someone in your family gets sick, you don't know who they are. When you show something that you're shameful about that you think someone's going to reject you for, you don't know. Like, you just don't know. Character can only be measured as the average of someone's actions over time. It cannot be gleaned from a couple of hours with someone.
