Pete Alexander2x TEDx Speaker and best-selling author helping transform burned out workers into engaged colleagues.

Stress Relief Tool - Seek Advice

18 Nov 2020 · 2 min

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In this short monologue, the speaker acknowledges that trying to solve every problem alone can be overwhelming, especially when stress impairs thinking. They describe how fixed expectations clash with reality, leading to anxiety. The core recommendation is to reach out for external help—whether friends, coworkers, or a professional coach—by asking for referrals or searching for a coach with relevant experience. The speaker emphasizes that outside perspectives can broaden one’s mindset, reduce feelings of isolation, and provide support. They conclude that seeking help requires lowering one’s ego, openly asking for assistance, and staying receptive to new ways of thinking.

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I know it's tempting to try and figure out everything for yourself. That can be effective if you have the available time and energy, but what if you don't? What if you had no clue how to handle a particular situation? Just thinking about that will cause you anxiety. If you're like me, stress shuts your thinking process down. You tend to hold fixed ideas about how you think things in life should turn out and fixed ideas about how you want them to turn out. However, these fixed ideas may be in opposition to how things are going in reality. When you find yourself struggling with the solution to a problem, reach out to your network of friends and/or coworkers who have experience in this area. If you don't have somebody in mind, consider asking your friends or coworkers if they have somebody they could recommend, or Google a professional coach with a background similar to yours who can help you find a solution. This outside advice can do wonders when it comes to opening your mind and making you feel less alone and more supported. We all need support. People want to help other people. All you have to do is put your ego down, ask for the help you need, and remain open to new ways of thinking.