John Wooden said you're not a failure until you start blaming others. Blaming stops you from learning. When something goes wrong, look at what you did first, ask yourself hard questions about your decisions, and find the lesson before you consider anyone else's role.
John Wooden was a famous basketball coach, and he said, you aren't a failure until you start blaming somebody. And by that, he meant that you can always be in the process of learning from your mistakes because you will make mistakes, but you're only learning until— up until that point when you start denying them and blaming somebody else. Then you stop learning. So when you find yourself in a situation where something goes wrong and you have that inkling saying it's this person's fault or it's because of that outside of yourself, try and take a moment and say, well, actually, how did I contribute to this happen? What can I learn from this action? Did I, did I not think it through? Did I, did I make a wrong bet? Did I, did I count on something that I Shouldn't have counted on? How can you take responsibility of part of what happened before you start blaming somebody else? Certainly somebody else had an effect on what happened, always will. We're not living in isolation. But at the end of the day, before you start blaming, look at why did something fail? How did you contribute or your actions contribute to the failure? Learn from that. And then worry secondly about how other things might have gone different if other people or other things have played out in a different way.
