People trap themselves with negative self-talk like "I'm difficult" or "I don't do this well." Instead, flip it: tell yourself "I am the person who leads this way." Change what you say about yourself, and you'll change what you do and how others treat you.
In the last couple of days, I've spent some time with potential clients who want to come work with me. And that's always wonderful because I learn a lot about what's going on out in the world. And one thing that struck me as a pattern is this self-talk that we have, this narrative of, I am a difficult person, or I don't do this well, or I know that I have issues with All these things where we kind of tell a narrative or tell a story about ourselves that is often not very flattering. The fastest trick to improving your situation in business and in life is stop doing that. Stop telling yourself what you think you are and start talking about what you want to become. I am the person that does this. I am the The woman that leads this way. Once you start thinking about yourself differently, you're going to start seeing some changes in how you actually do things, and you're going to start seeing changes in how people perceive you. There's no need to start being down on yourself. There's plenty of other people who want to do that. So if you catch yourself saying, I am this person, or I do this, which is a negative attribute, turn it around and say, what's the positive of that? And start telling yourself, I am the person that... and then the positive thing that you're doing. Try that for a while and see how it works out.
