Amber Hollingsworth explains that common gratitude routines (e.g., listing generic items like "family, job, health") are often ineffective. She reframes gratitude as an action and recommends daily, specific expressions of gratitude to someone for things they've done (recently, currently, or in the past) to build a happier, healthier life.
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Practicing gratitude is a great way to lead to a happier, healthier life. The problem is most people who are trying to practice gratitude do it all wrong. It's like wake up, make a list of 10 things that you feel grateful for because it's just really hard to come up with those ideas from nowhere. And so you end up putting my family, my job, my health, whatever, and then it just gets super generic. And honestly it's just not that helpful. If you want to really get the benefit of practicing gratitude, it's important to remember that gratitude is an action. So the way you practice that action is to actually express your gratitude. A better way would be to make it a priority that each day you're going to express to someone that you are grateful for something that they've done for you recently or currently or maybe even in your past. Now that is going to help you develop a happier, healthier life.