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A Proven Formula for Positive Transformation

1 Jan 2024 · 0 min

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Amber Hollingsworth presents a short, practical formula for helping someone move out of denial: allow natural consequences to occur while pairing that approach with empathy. She contrasts this method with common but ineffective family responses (yelling, lecturing, fixing consequences) and frames the two elements as central to positive transformation.

So getting someone out of denial is a big, huge first step. But there is a formula that you can use that actually works pretty well for getting someone out of denial. That formula is allowing the natural consequences to happen. Combined with this is really important empathy. Now, what most families want to do is they want to yell, scream, nag, preach, remind, lecture, threaten ultimate all the stuff, which is the opposite of the empathy thing, but then they want to fix all the natural consequences.