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Addicted People Get Defensive When... 🙃

17 May 2023 · 1 min

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Amber Hollingsworth warns that when people are criticized about their drinking or drug use they commonly become defensive, offering explanations and rationalizations. She cautions that this reflex can prevent self-reflection and lead people to harm their own lives in a power struggle, urging listeners not to sabotage themselves out of spite.

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When people are on your case about your drinking or your drug use, it's easy to get defensive. Because as humans, we don't want to be controlled. It's almost like a reflex that we want to defend ourselves, that we want to explain and justify and rationalize while we're doing what we're doing. But sometimes that reflex to defend our actions and our choices can be so strong that we shoot ourselves in the foot. Because we can get so busy defending our choices that we forget to stop and even ask ourselves, am I really happy? Is this the life that I want? It's never a good idea to mess up your life to spite someone else. So be careful. Don't mess up your own life just because you're stuck in a power struggle with someone.