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Addictions Unseen Victim #podcast

14 Feb 2024 · 1 min

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A short excerpt from the "Addictions Unseen Victim #podcast" (uploaded by Amber Hollingsworth) where Sherry and another speaker discuss the emotional trauma experienced by loved ones of people with addiction. The speaker uses a mugging metaphor to describe how repeated emotional violations compound into trauma, arguing that victims should not be expected to act as primary support for the person who harmed them.

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When you were drinking and you were being nasty and unkind and then you came to me for support, I felt like, why are you coming to me? Like you just violated me in some way emotionally.
And, yeah, like Sherry, you were walking down a dark alley and I was your mugger. I came and, you know, robbed from you at gunpoint. That's a lot of trauma. No one in the world would ever expect you to be part of my rehabilitation solution. No one would ever expect you to counsel me and support me in becoming not a mugger anymore. You're clearly the victim of a crime and I'm the perpetrator. And I kind of think it's sort of like that when we expect the loved one who has been violated over and over and over. And it's compiled. It's not compartmentalized. It's compiled. And you've got years of trauma about this. For me to expect you to come and be my number one support system.