Addicts Blaming Others | A Detailed Guide On WHY & HOW To Deal With It
In this solo coaching video Amber Hollingsworth addresses family members and friends of people with functional addictions who feel stuck in a cycle of blame, criticism, and power struggles. She first explains why common reactions—nagging, accusing, gathering evidence, playing the “bad‑guy,” or rescuing the addict by paying bills—actually reinforce denial and defensiveness. The core problem is that these tactics create chaos, erode trust, and prevent the addicted person from taking accountability. Amber then outlines a step‑by‑step roadmap: (1) stop being the perceived “bad guy” and stop distracting the addict from the problem; (2) build emotional and psychological credibility (her “credit score”) through reflective listening, mirroring, and validating the addict’s point of view; (3) uncover the addict’s genuine motivations for change by asking what they dislike about their behavior; (4) combine the newly‑earned trust with those motivations, reinforcing positive self‑image and values; (5) present options in a collaborative, non‑forceful way, allowing the addict to retain control; (6) tolerate and positively reinforce the many failed attempts the addict will try before committing to full sobriety, using encouraging language to keep hope alive. Throughout, Amber stresses that even if the addict never fully recovers, the family’s life improves dramatically when the power struggle ends. She concludes by offering concrete resources: a free 5‑day “Get Out of the Bad Guy Role” challenge, the detailed “Invisible Intervention” program (which includes a credit‑score system for measuring trust), and an “Amber AI” chatbot that personalizes her methodology. The video blends psychological insight, communication techniques, and practical tools to empower loved ones to shift from blame to influence.
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If you've got an addicted loved one who's still somewhat functional, but definitely has an addiction, this video is going to be your lifeline. I know you might be thinking, I've already tried a million things, Amber. I've begged, I've pleaded, I've threatened, I've prayed, I've done everything and nothing seems to work. Is it not working because they're still in denial? They're probably blaming you for everything. And if not, they're at least making you the bad guy in the situation. But don't worry, I am going to give you a roadmap that works. I'm going to tell you exactly the steps you need to take. But before I tell you those I need to tell you what you're doing wrong and why it's not working. Because if you keep doing these things, it's going to mess up any positive thing you do on the other end. So let's get our head wrapped around what we need to stop doing and why we need to stop doing it. Now, I know you love this person. You really care about them and you only want what's best for them, but you need them to take accountability for the bad choices they're making. But for some reason, it's like they can't even see the problem. They won't acknowledge it. They continuously minimize it and they're not taking any real steps to fix it. So here's what you're probably doing wrong if you're in this situation. In your mind, the situation is urgent and it is, it's a crisis. It's killing you to watch them ruin their life and yours. And so you've got all these alarm bells going off in your head. And so what you're trying to do is you're trying to make them connect these dots as fast as possible. You're trying to speed up the process, which I totally understand. This is a freaking nightmare and you need it to be dealt with. So the more they deny the problem, lie, sneak and manipulate, the more you keep trying to collect evidence to try to force them to see the issue. You're trying to make them connect the dots and it's just not working. Imagine you are trying to help someone get over their fear of snakes and they're deathly afraid of snakes. Here's what you're doing. You're going to the zoo or the snake store or whatever, and you're getting the biggest, scariest looking snake you can possibly find, and you're literally catching them off guard and throwing the snake on top of them. Because you want them to hurry up and get over this snake phobia. And you know that the only way to get over the snake phobia is to actually face the fear. So you're just trying to expedite the process. A lot of reasons why that might not work. That's basically what you're trying to do here. You're trying to make someone face a really scary reality that they don't want to face, and you're trying to do it very quickly. And you don't mean to, but you're creating a very threatening situation, which is only slowing down the process. Don't worry, stay tuned because I am going to tell you how to fix it, but I need you to really understand why this isn't working. First and foremost, you're providing a distraction that's keeping them from being able to take accountability for the issue. Now, the way you're providing that distraction is that you're causing chaos. You're pushing them. You're playing this bad guy role. And so your addicted loved one is going to continuously focus on everything you're doing wrong. In fact, they're going to set little traps for you and make sure you keep doing something wrong. They're going to gaslight you. They're going to manipulate They're going to fishhook you into arguments to make sure that you stay in this crazy person role so they can validate their own narrative, which is you are the one with the problem. And that gives them all the reason in the world to stay focused on that and not deal with the choices that they're making. When you confront someone head on in a criticism kind of way, they're going to be defensive. Even if they know you're right, even if they know they're totally in the wrong, it is a natural human reflex. In fact, think of a time you got criticized and maybe it was kind of true. Did you not feel defensive? Now, depending on your personality, you may have said a bunch of defensive things out loud, but maybe you're not that personality type. But I guarantee you thought a bunch of defensive thoughts inside your head. You thought a bunch of, you don't know me and you don't get it and you're just a jerk and all the defensive thoughts. You know what they are. So No matter how true it is, no matter this urgency that you have where you feel like you're trying to force someone to see it, coming at someone from a critical angle is only ever going to make them defensive. So you got to cut that out. It's not going to work. It's slowing everything down. Now, a big reason why your addicted loved one doesn't want to listen to what you have to say is because they don't trust you. And beyond that, they don't like you. Yes, I know that is a little bit difficult pill to swallow. You might have even felt a little defensive right there, even if you know there's some truth there. So let's take a look at why that is. They don't trust you because you're trying to throw snakes on them when they're scared of snakes. Okay? They don't trust you because they see you as threatening. You are probably the person that is trying to force them to see or deal with something that to see and deal with. Okay? So that means being around you is uncomfortable. So when people get uncomfortable being around you, what do they naturally start doing? They start trying to avoid you and avoid having conversations with you, and they definitely avoid being truthful with you. So you get a lot of sneaking, lying, hiding, avoiding, all the things, you know what they are. And all of that leads into why they don't like you. Now, they may not admit it, but when you make someone feel badly about themselves, they don't like you. It's simple formula. And if you stop to think about it, you know that you're not doing it on purpose, but you're probably making this person feel bad about themselves. And I know they probably deserve it. And they probably should feel bad about themselves to some degree, but it's just not helping your case. So when someone doesn't trust you and they don't like you, there's pretty much like no chance that they're going to listen to your advice about the situation. And another really big reason why your addicted loved one doesn't trust you, won't listen to you, won't let you help them is because they feel like you don't understand them. You don't have empathy for them. You don't get where they're coming from. You basically just don't get where they're coming from. If you stop to think about it, it'll make sense to you, right? Even if I like another person and that other person is trying to give me advice about what I need to do to solve a problem that I have, if I don't feel like they get my situation or understand me as a person and all of the dynamics of the situation, even if I like that person, I'm not going to take their advice because they don't really understand my situation. So you've got a double against you here, right? They don't like you. They don't trust you, and they don't feel like you understand where they're coming from. Now, probably you do kind of understand. You just don't agree with it. Okay? And because you don't agree with it, you're not really acknowledging it, which is leading them again to the fact that you don't understand them and that you make them feel bad about themselves. And so therefore their whole job and mission, their whole mind, all their energy goes into avoiding having those uncomfortable conversations with you. Have you ever noticed that when you try to bring it up, they either shut down or they start a fight or they get defensive or they say a bunch of nasty things towards you? Yes, people will do anything to avoid that feeling of shame and uncomfortableness and to get out of having this conversation. Now, another reason why you're not able to get through to your addicted loved one is because you feel like you know what the solution to their problem is, and they feel like you're pushing it on them. Even in situations where someone agrees that they have a problem and they want to fix it, no one likes to feel forced or pushed into doing it any certain way. So if you're constantly pushing them to get help, to go to treatment, to talk to a counselor, to go to meetings, to get a sponsor, that The push that you're giving them, even though it's coming from a good place, is naturally making them put their walls up because it's a human instinct to want to have control over your situation. Like I said before, even if they want to get better, they want to have some control in how they get better because it's really scary. Even if a person wants to overcome their fear of snakes, they're going to want to have some control over how they overcome that fear. They are not going to want to be forced into a snake pit like Indiana Jones. Okay? I'm not telling you you're making them drink or use Or do whatever the addiction is. You didn't cause the problem, but there's a strong chance you could be slowing down the solution. Not meaning to, but it's still happening. Let's pause just for a second here to think about how your life and their life will change if they would just address this issue. Everything probably won't be perfect, but man, life will be 90% better. You're not going to have to constantly feel hypervigilant all the time. You're not going to have this power struggle going on with the person. You're going to be able to sleep better at night. Your finances are going to get better. Your mental health's going to get better. The rest of the people in the family are going to get better. You got a lot of really good reasons to be hopeful that your loved one can figure this out and overcome addiction. Now, I know you may hear a bunch of terrible statistics out there and people are really negative and they say only 1 in 10 people beat it and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. That's not true. Okay? I've been helping people overcome addictions for more than 20 years, and I see people get sober every single day. And a lot of them are people that you would think, and even I think in the beginning, they're not going to get it and they still get it. So yes, there is a strong chance that your loved one can figure this out and get on the road to recovery. And not only that, but you're not powerless in the situation either. You have some influence. Now that I've told you what you're doing kind of wrong and why it's not working, let's take a look at what will work and why it works. The very first thing you got to do is you got to quit distracting them from seeing the problem by playing the bad guy role. Okay, maybe not every situation is the family member playing the bad guy role, but most of the time they are, even if they're super nice and they're just like the biggest enabler. Like for example, maybe we're talking about a parent who is trying to help their addicted young adult child or something. They're paying all their bills. You're still going to be in the bad guy role because guess what? They're going to resent you for paying their bills because it makes them feel bad about themselves. So even when you're trying really hard not to be the bad guy, you can still find yourself In that bad guy role. Not that you are the bad guy, but I'm talking about in their mind, in their story, you're playing the bad guy role because it makes them feel bad about themselves. Even if you're saying all these nice things to them and you're being positive and encouraging, you might still be hitting the shame button. Now, I'm going to tell you a few more steps here, but that one I just told you is the most important step. In fact, if you do none of these other steps and you just do that one step I told you, the chances of your loved one getting better multiply big time. Now, you could be distracting them by yelling, threatening, nagging, preaching, criticizing, Trying to tell them they're doing it all wrong, all these things. Or you could be distracting them from the problem by paying all their bills and fixing all their issues because you're making their problem go away. So how are they going to see their problem if you're making all their problems go away? And worst of all, some of you are in the worst situation because you're doing both of those things. You're yelling, nagging, threatening, you know, you're doing all the bad guy things and you're fixing all the problems. Chances that your loved one's going to get better if you're doing both of those things, are not good. Not saying it's impossible, but I'm saying it's not good. So you got to address both of those things. If you feel like you're doing that really well, you can move on to step 2. Step 2 is what I call building credibility. In our Invisible Intervention, we actually call it building credit because it's just like your credit score. So like if you wanted to buy a house or a car or boat or something, and you were going to go to the bank and you were going to ask for money or something like that, you know, you'd have to have good credit. If your credit score is not in shape and you go and ask for something, they're not going to trust you to pay them back. So you're not going to get what you want. So just like building your personal financial credit, you've got to build the emotional and psychological credit with your loved one. Otherwise, they don't care what you have to say. They don't trust your suggestions. And in fact, because they don't like you, they may very well do the opposite of what you're saying just to upset you. So you got to build this credibility. You've got to gain their trust. Now, there's a couple of ways you can build your credit here. One is you got to really thoroughly understand their point of view. And this might be painful for you because in your head, you're defensive about their point of view. You're arguing. Like, for example, if their point of view is, it's not that bad. Like, I just drink. I don't cheat on my wife or something, right? You might be thinking, but it is bad because you're coming home and you're drunk and you're being a bad role model for your kids and all the things, right? And so you're not going to want to agree with their idea that they're not that bad. And so you're going to fight against that, but I want you to stop doing that. I actually want you to start using reflective listening skills. Mirroring, labeling, all those really good communication techniques that focus on not getting your point across, not only understanding their point of view, but being able to communicate to the other person that you do get where they're coming from. For example, in the situation I just told you about, like where the spouse is trying to say it's not that bad, here's what I would want you to say. I would want you to say, oh, I know that your drinking is not that bad. You're not near as bad as X, Y, Z. Now it has to be true. You're not saying that it's not a problem. You're not saying they don't need to deal with it, but what you're saying is, okay, yeah, you're not the worst alcoholic out there. Could we agree on that? Sure, we can agree on that. I know in your mind you're like, I don't want to tell them that because then they're going to think it's fine for them to keep doing it. No, they're not going to think it's fine just because you told them that. If they think it's fine, it's because they already thought it was fine. What's going to happen when you say something to them like that is you are going to get a lot of trust and credibility points. Yeah, okay, they understand, they get it. Now we go into all those communication techniques and stuff like that inside of our Invisible Intervention. So if you want the step-by-step roadmap, definitely Definitely check that out. Even if you just understand the philosophy of what I'm telling you here and you have decent communication skills, if you'll put them in play, you're going to build some credit. Now, the third thing I want you to do is I want you to find their motivations for change because I promise you they're in there. And maybe you think, oh, they don't care at all. They don't want to change at all. And you probably think that because they've told you that. Okay, listen, I've had every cowboy on the planet tell me they never go to treatment and they'll never stop this. They don't care and they're going to keep doing it forever and they love it. The whole beginning of my career was dealing with teenagers. So trust me, I've been told these things. And guess what? Every one of them cowboys ended up going to treatment and addressing the problem. So don't let that stop you. Okay? That's what I call big talk. Don't worry about the big talk. Don't fight against it. Just let that big talk sit there. Okay? Because even if they love it, there's something about it they don't like. There's a piece about their situation that they wish was different. I mean, come on, it's natural. We're all that way about pretty much any situation we're in, right? There's something they don't like about it. And if you can find out what that And you can also find out maybe why they wish it was different. Now we've got something to grab ahold of. For example, let's go back to our snake situation, right? I'm scared of snakes. I don't like snakes. And to be honest, I know it's probably irrational, right? Even if there's like a snake outside of my yard that I know is not poison and I know is like a tiny thing and I know it can't hurt me. I know it's irrational, but I'm still scared, but I'm not that motivated to get over it, right? There's not a lot of reasons for me to address that fear. But if I had to dig deep down inside of myself and find Some reason why I might want to get over that fear would be if I lived in a place where there were a lot of snakes and my fear of snakes was keeping me from being able to go out and enjoy things, then I might be more motivated. If I thought that somehow my fear of snakes was doing something bad to my kid, like a bad influence on them or making them scared to go out, then I might would address my fear of snakes. You can see there could be some motivators in there, right? You got to find what those are because once you find what those motivators are, you can help the person connect to those. So it's probably not the things that you think they should be. It's probably not what you would imagine motivates them. In your mind, it could be minor, like, really? They care about that, but they don't care about this and that. They don't care that they're driving drunk every day, but they care that it's making them gain a little weight. It doesn't matter what your motivations are or what you think theirs should be. It matters what their motivations are. So you got to listen carefully for it. Here, I'll give you one little technique right here that works. When they're giving the big talk and they're saying how they love it and this and that and the other, You can ask this simple question. Is there anything about it you don't like? Because immediately they're going to think of something they don't like about it. They may not tell it to you if you're still in that bad guy role, but they're going to think it. So either which way, you're still shaping that thinking and you're still helping them connect to what it is they don't like about it. Now, step number 4 in this solution is you're going to combine your credibility and trust with their motivation. And now we're going to have a formula. This is how we're going to walk this person out of this mess, right? And Not just this person, but our whole family. We're going to get our whole family out of this mess by combining the credibility and the trust with their motivations. The more they trust you, the more they feel like you understand them, the more willing they're going to be to have conversations with you, which is going to make it easier to find their motivations. And let me just backtrack for one second here. Whatever their motivations are, you don't belittle them. You don't minimize them. You don't argue with them. Okay? And I know you're thinking, well, duh, Amber, that's obvious, but it's not obvious because I see you do it all the time. You say, well, you're just doing it for me. Okay. If they're doing it for you, that's wonderful. You say, thank you so much. I appreciate that. How thoughtful and loving and wonderful. Don't tell somebody that their motivations are wrong. Don't tell them things like, well, you're just doing it because you were going to get thrown in jail. You didn't really want to get sober. Hey, that's a good reason to get sober. Do not minimize or judge or discredit their reasons. I don't care what their reasons are. Any reason to address an addiction and get sober and get into recovery, it's a good reason. We like them all. We're going to take all of them. The more, the better. When you have this trust and you're able to have Conversations about it. Even if they won't have a conversation with you about that, you can still have good leading conversations because once you find their motivations, then you can start playing on them. So let's go a little bit further into those motivations, right? Their motivations could be avoiding some kind of bad consequence. And hey, those are good motivations, but let those be there. Okay? Their motivations could be it makes them feel bad about themselves. Their motivations could be they want to be a better husband. They want to be a better wife. Their motivation could be they want to make a million dollars in their business. Okay? Whatever their motivations We want to harness those. And a lot of times what motivates people is how they want to feel about themselves and how they want to be seen by other people. This is your loved one. So you already actually probably know this piece of information. You know how they want to be seen and perceived. You know that maybe they want to be seen as a good guy or a strong person or a courageous person or a giving and loving person. You know what it is that they want to be seen as. And probably what you've been doing is you've probably been trying to tell them how they're not that, like how they're not being a good father and how they're not being courageous and How they're not being a stand-up person. I don't want you to do that anymore. What I want you to do is I want you to take what you know about your loved one because that's a motivation—how they want to be seen and how they want to feel about themselves—and I want you to plant those seeds. I want you to do the opposite of what you've been doing. I want you to say you're always so courageous. You're really self-disciplined. You're such a great mother. All of those things because even if their addiction is interfering with those things to some degree, they probably steal those things in other areas. So I want you to remind that person of their positive qualities, of their values. Values and of their motivators, because that's actually going to strengthen them and make them feel more connected to their motivators and more likely to take action on it when they start to sense that their addiction is taking them further from that. So even if they won't talk about the addiction, you can still slide these little pieces in, in all kinds of other conversations. And the more you do it, the more they're going to like you, the more they're going to think you understand them, the higher your credit score is going to get. And eventually your loved one is going to find themselves in a bad situation with something. Okay? Maybe they're in the doghouse. Maybe they're in the doghouse with their kids. Maybe they're in a bad situation at work or a legal situation. Okay? And when that happens, they're going to come to you because you're our trusted source. They're going to talk to you about that. Now you've laid the foundation perfectly because now what you have to say next has a perfect credit score. They are listening to you. They're leaning into you. They want to know what you think because they trust you, because they like you, and because you get them. If you don't lay this foundation, it doesn't work. When you get them in that spot, and then maybe you have some advice for them, them, they're going to listen to what you have to say. And don't worry, I'm going to tell you what to say and what your advice is going to be. But before that, I got to tell you one little thing because I want you to be prepared for this. Okay? I need you to, while all this is going on, I need you to be able to tolerate and support all of their bad ideas about how to solve this problem. Okay? They're going to try a lot of things. You're going to know from the get-go that it's not going to work and it's going to end badly. Okay? But I'm going to need you to tolerate that. In fact, I'm going to need you to actually feel positively about it. And no, I'm not being crazy here. I want you to feel positively about it because I want you to understand that people have to try all the things they can think of before they try the one thing that you know is going to work, which is give it up totally. Okay? We all know that's what works, but that's hard to come to that conclusion. So your loved one is going to want to try a bunch of other stuff first. And the more you tolerate it and you continue to do these other steps that I've told you here, the faster they're going to figure out that they can't consistently manage it, that they can't drink socially, that they can't smoke just a little bit, that they can't dabble in gambling because they're going to try and fail and try and fail. And when they try and I do not want you to jump on and say, I told you, and I'm sick of that. And you keep saying over and over and over. I want you to consistently and continuously send messages of, hey, I know you're going to figure it out. I know you're trying hard. You did really good for X weeks, X days, 3 hours, whatever it was, because you're sending messages that they're going to solve it. And because of that, you're sort of like planting that subconscious seed in their head and you're making them feel like they have the strength and the courage and the resources to deal with this problem. You're going to expedite it by doing that. I know it feels a little like against your instincts, but everything I've told you so far is against your instincts. But this does work. Now, if your loved one is way past functioning and they're way into non-functioning and they're way far out there in addiction, this stuff may not get them to snap out of it and realize it, but it'll still fix your relationship with them. It'll still make things 1,000 times better in the family. It still increases the chances that they're going to get it right. So still the way to go about it. But if your person's like a functional person still, and you're doing what I'm telling you, there's really good chance that they're going to figure it out. Okay. Now I know I told you I was going to tell you what to say when you finally got your moment here. Okay. What you're going to say is, I'm going to give you some options here. Okay. You're either going to say, you're right. What do you think is going to work? Because at this point they might say, well, I think I need to go back to meetings or, well, I think I got to go to detox. Especially if these blocks are all laid out in the right way, they're probably going to know what they need to do. And you're not even going to have to tell them. You're just going to say, you know what? You're right. I support you. What can I do to help? You want me to make a call? You want me to call the insurance? Whatever. You're going to be their support If you don't think they're going to come up with any kind of reasonable solution, you could throw one out. You could offer it because you have the credibility. Okay. But I want you to come up with a solution that they're more likely to buy into. Okay. So if you know they are never going to go to 90 days of treatment, then I want you to think, what might they do? There's a couple of ways to go about that. You can do this sort of negotiation thing where you start high, knowing they're not going to take it, and you can accept the lower thing. There's a lot of things you can do here, or you can frame the solution in a way that you know is going to appeal to them. Like, for example, I know you hate talking in groups, so I know none of that group stuff's going to work for you, but you might like to talk just individually and privately. See how you set that up as desirable solution? If you just say, I think you need to go get some help, or I think you need to go talk to somebody, then the person might have some defensiveness towards that, even if they kind of agree. But if you say, oh, I know you don't like this and that, so maybe this might be a good solution for you. And if you throw the maybe in there, they don't have to throw up their I need to be in control of me. And so it allows them to absorb that maybe and that little piece of advice that followed it in a lot better. If you follow the steps I've given you in this video, the chances that your loved one's going to figure it out skyrocket. The chances that your life is going to get better skyrocket. Even if they don't change, if you'll do what I'm telling you to do in this video, your life is going to get considerably better because you're going to stop the power struggle. You're going to stop arguing. You're going to stop being an FBI agent constantly trying to find everything. Your life's going to become a lot more manageable because if nothing else, I promise you it's going to improve your relationship with this person. That doesn't mean you let them get away with everything. Okay, I'm not saying that you like let them run all over your boundaries or anything. Okay, but once you get that power struggle out of the dynamic, your life's going to get 50% better automatically, no matter what the ending is. And bonus, you're going to be able to apply all these techniques to other people in your life, and you're going to see good results even in other relationships. Now, I know I've given you a lot. There's a lot of steps there, and each one of those steps have like little sub-baby steps underneath them, right? And so there's a lot of pieces to it. But remember, step number 1 was get out of the bag I wrote, right? If you're ready to start on step number 1, getting out of the bad guy role, then you can sign up for my free 5-day, super simple, super easy Get Out of the Bad Guy Role Challenge. It's just 5 days of me sending you a little email, a little message saying, do this one little thing today. And I'm telling you, it's so small. It's like one little bitty tiny thing each day. You're going to be like, man, this is small. But at the end of those 5 days, you're going to see a noticeable shift in your dynamic with that person. You're going to be well on your way to getting yourself out of the bad guy role. Now, I know I've given you a lot of And you may feel like you need all those little tiny bullet points and substeps under there. And you may want the whole thing mapped out for you, all those communication skills and everything like that. If that's the kind of person you are, you're really detailed, you want the step-by-step, then you might want to look at our Invisible Intervention because it takes you through the process I just told you, but in a lot more detail. It gives you a lot more about what to say and when to say it and how to build your credit and how to actually measure and how to actually calculate your credit score so you can kind of know when you're close to being a trusted advisor, all those kind of things. It's all in The Invisible Intervention. I'll put a link so you can go over there. You can check it out. You can learn more about it. Okay, so I know I've given you a lot there. I've given you a lot of steps. I've given you a lot of information. Hopefully you're beginning to kind of come to terms with, okay, I can see why that philosophy would work, but you might be thinking, and rightfully so, that your situation, there's a lot of little complicating factors in there, right? There's always a lot of little nuances to any person's situation. And so even if you understand the big philosophy and the strategies, you're going to run into little things. It's like, well, what do I do if they say this? And what do I do if that? And what do I do if they're And what do I do if they come from a family of addicts and their family's enabling them? All those little nuances that kind of come in and throw us off and we're like, well, how do I apply the strategies then? Then you may want to look at getting some individual coaching from us. You can do that in a couple of ways. You can do that by scheduling a session with one of my family experts, or you could sign up for my Amber AI. It's really cool. It's like the Amber version of ChatGPT. The difference here is that it's trained on all of my philosophies and my strategies and my techniques and all that kind of stuff. So you can actually talk to it 24/7 anytime you want, tell it your situations, and it will take all that information I just gave you and process it down to fit it towards the information you're giving about your specific situation and help you tailor the advice, give you specific things to try, tell you what to do next. It'll help you lay out like the full plan each day. I'll put a link in the description in case you want to check that out. It will really help you fine-tune what I've just told you to make it fit exactly in your situation.
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