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Beware of this mistake

21 Feb 2024 · 0 min

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Short video clip where Amber Hollingsworth advises how to communicate with people who view themselves as caring/helpful: avoid confronting them by telling them they are bad or harmful because such feedback conflicts with their self-image and will be rejected. The clip focuses on using the person's self-view to get through to them rather than challenging it directly.

Maybe you're dealing with someone who tends to be a very helpful person, a very caring person, a very loving person, a person that sees themselves as a really good person. If you're dealing with someone like that, then you need to use that information to help you get through to them. What you don't want to do is you don't want to try to convince them that they're actually not a great person, that they're actually hurting the people around them, that they're actually being irresponsible or making bad choices because they're going to really reject that that does not fit with their self image.