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Can't Love Someone Else Until...

18 Apr 2023 · 1 min

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Amber Hollingsworth opens a short YouTube segment explaining the aphorism "you can't love someone else until you love yourself." She argues that lacking self-love makes you overly dependent on a partner to meet all needs, which sets relationships up for failure, and warns against romanticizing being "someone's everything."

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Now, most of us have heard the saying before that you can't love someone else until you love yourself, but you might not know exactly why that is. There's actually a ton of truth in that statement, because if you don't love yourself, you're going to be so dependent on that other person to meet all of your needs that you set the relationship up for failure. Because there's nobody out there that can meet all your needs. Of course, having someone to be around and love and be your partner and your teammate is a wonderful thing, but you can't burden them to be your everything. So the next time somebody tells you that you're their everything, you should probably get scared.