YouTube video (Recovery Concepts #27) by Amber Hollingsworth offering a short, practical tip for people in early sobriety who find social situations (weddings, family events, holidays, dating) anxiety-provoking. The core advice: when you feel awkward or stuck, focus on being interested in other people — ask questions about work, hobbies, or recent interesting events, listen, and prompt positive memories so others transfer positive feelings to you. The video frames this one skill as a reliable go-to during sober social interactions and references a related idea from a prior video (thinking controls feelings).
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Today's tip is all about how to be social without drugs and alcohol. So you're sober, but life goes on.
There's still going to be weddings and.
Family events and holidays and all kind of things that you're probably going to have to deal with sober. Maybe you're single and you're gonna have to date sober. Oh my gosh, that's a whole. We could have a whole 30 day series on that because that's pretty intimidating. So it's time to learn how do.
I navigate social situations without drugs or alcohol.
Now, some of you that are watching.
This may be total extrovert and you may have no issue with this.
If that's you, turn the video off, you can skip today.
You got a free day.
But if that's not you and you have a little anxiety over the situation, stay tuned because I'm gonna give you one skill that's gonna make it so much easier.
It's gonna be your go to.
Here it is when you feel stuck or awkward and you don't know what.
To talk about and you're in that weird sort of networky, terrible feeling. I don't like that either.
Something that you can always do is be interested in other people. You know, when you're sitting there, it feels like, what do I talk about?
I can't think of anything. The weather, you know, I'm from this place. And you've said all that and now you're getting that like nervousy feeling because there might be this weird, uncomfortable s thing going on.
Just get out of your own head. Ask the person something about them. Ask them if there's been anything interesting at work lately. If they have any really cool hobby or interest in what they like about it. Ask questions. People love to talk about themselves. And if you get a person to talk about something that they like, guess what? They transfer those positive feelings. Because when they think about that thing that they really like or that was really awesome, they get flooded with positive feelings.
Remember that video? Yeah, that last one that we had where I talked about your thinking controls your feelings.
Here's how you can use it on someone else. If you get someone to think some positive thoughts, they get some positive feelings and then they start to associate those.
Positive feelings with you.
So that's a nice little insider trick, isn't it? So when you can't think of what to talk about, don't talk about you. Talk about them. Ask questions, listen, be interested and people.
