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Early Sobriety Tips For Success (Stop Negative Thinking And Anxiety) Recovery Concepts #12

14 May 2019 · 1 min

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A short recovery-advice video by Amber Hollingsworth focused on identifying and stopping "victim thinking" in early sobriety. The speaker highlights that victim thinking can be outward (blaming others) or inward (self-directed negativity/self-bullying), gives examples of self-talk ("you're a loser", "you don't deserve recovery") and warns that such thinking can sabotage recovery by prompting resignation and relapse; she urges viewers to confront and stop self-directed victim thinking.

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If you've already listened to the video on identifying your victim thinking patterns and you just really struggle with that because you're like, I really don't blame anybody else. I really don't think it's my mom's fault, my wife's fault, my husband's fault, the school or whatever, then your victim thinking might be you beating your own self up. That's still victim thinking. Because if you're constantly being negative and ugly to yourself, like, you're a loser, you're a jerk, you don't deserve recovery, you don't deserve forgiveness. That's still you being a bully to you. And guess what you'll do? You'll rescue yourself from that bully. Because eventually we don't like to be beat up or talk negative to, whether it's from someone else or from ourselves. So we'll even let ourselves off the hook. You know how you do that? You say, well, well, I'm just not worthy, or I can't even get recovery, or I'm such a loser, blah, blah, blah, I might as well keep using. That's some bull. You got to confront that victim thinking, even if it's you being nasty to you. So you got to put a stop to it.