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Emotional Blackmail 101 #recoveryjourney #addictionrecovery #addictiontreatment

23 Apr 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment, the speaker highlights how family members and loved ones of individuals struggling with addiction often experience intense fear—fear that their loved one will relapse, become homeless, or overdose. This fear fuels a codependent anxiety that can lead to enabling behaviors. The speaker explains that this anxiety manifests as emotional blackmail, where the person with addiction may threaten extreme outcomes (e.g., refusing to pay rent, claiming they will live in their car, or saying they’ll become homeless) to manipulate the family’s actions. These threats trigger the family’s fear buttons, creating a cycle where the family’s attempts to protect the person inadvertently reinforce the manipulative dynamics and hinder healthy recovery.

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We're terrified that our person will relapse or they'll be homeless or they'll overdose. And so we sort of set up the scenario for the serotonin to not be developed. Anxiety, you know, that codependence that we got, we have, which is that anxiety based upon fear that really gets in the way. Emotional blackmail. A lot of times they will, they'll make comments like, well, if you make me pay rent, I'll go live in my car. If I have to contribute here financially, I'll just be homeless. And that doesn't feel good to us. Because again, that pushes on those fear buttons of what will happen if we do that.