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Facing the Unbearable Truth #recoveryjourney #addictionrecovery #addictiontreatment

19 Mar 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment, Amber Hollingsworth explains how denial functions as a psychological defense mechanism for individuals struggling with addiction and related family dynamics. She describes denial as a protective shield that blocks intolerable truths—such as recognizing oneself as an alcoholic, feeling like a terrible parent, or confronting a partner’s addiction—that threaten the ego. By guarding against these painful thoughts, a person becomes unable to see the reality of their situation, which hampers coping and recovery. The talk emphasizes the subconscious nature of denial and its destructive impact on self‑identity and relationships.

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Denial, you've heard me say this before, is a defense mechanism designed to protect you. And what it's protecting you against is some reality that for you feels intolerable. So it's just, you cannot cope with the thought that something that's going on, I can't deal with the idea that I'm a terrible mother. I can't deal with the idea that I'm actually an alcoholic. I can't deal with the idea that the person I married and I fell in love with who I thought was awesome is having an addiction and that's impacting my kids. These are intolerable thoughts. As a protective mechanism, we start to guard against those thoughts. It's like an inability to see something because we subconsciously feel like we cannot see. We just can't see it because it's too destructive to our ego.