Amber Hollingsworth reflects on sobriety: while an individual must ultimately choose to get sober themselves, addictive thinking often produces self-deceptive 'loophole' rationalizations (e.g., "I haven't drank in a year so maybe I can drink successfully"), so outside guidance and honesty from others can be necessary to sustain recovery.
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It's not really that people can't get sober on their own. In fact, I like to say there's only one way to get sober, and that's on your own, because no one else can do it for you. But what happens is sometimes you need a little guidance on how to do it. Because the whole idea, like in 12 step of powerlessness, is because when you're in that addictive thinking, you keep trying to trick yourself into finding this loophole way. I haven't drank in a year, so maybe I'm not an alcoholic anymore, and maybe I can drink successfully. It's constantly trying to find a loophole and not quite even understanding what you're doing that's keeping this thing triggered. And that's where you need some outside help. You can't really trust yourself to be honest with yourself when it comes to your addictive behaviors.