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Giving an Ultimatum to an Addict

24 May 2024 · 1 min

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A short spoken segment from Amber Hollingsworth advising that ultimatums to someone with an addiction should only be issued when you truly mean them. She argues that sincere, final boundaries—after offering support and following her prior steps—make it more likely the person will "take a U-turn" and commit to change because they recognize the fairness and completeness of the chance they were given.

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If you get to the point where you need to like say that's it, I'm done, I'm out or else I'm not doing this anymore. I never tell you guys to put the ultimatum out there to say either stop or I'm leaving or stop or you're kicked out or something like that unless you really mean it. But if you do get to that point, chances that they actually will take that u turn and fix it are a lot higher because they're gonna know that's totally fair. They're gonna know that you gave them every single benefit chance option and that they've pushed it too far. And if you've done the steps staying out of the bag, I roll all those things that I teach you, they're going to own the fact. They're going to take that in their heart and they're going to say, you know what? I really push it too far. I need to turn this around.