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How Being Responsible Can Trap You

28 Oct 2024 · 1 min

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Amber Hollingsworth argues that repeatedly taking on others' responsibilities can create resentment and change your behavior—making it harder to be loving, kind, or compassionate toward the person you are helping. While short-term help feels good, long-term takeover leads to feeling trapped, guilty, anxious, and forced, with no good choices available.

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And that's the whole problem, is the building of those resentments is going to make you act in a way that maybe is not yourself. Because it's going to be hard to be loving, kind, compassionate, empathetic towards someone that when you're for a long period of time, taking over their responsibilities. We can all do it for short periods of time. And we're happy to do that. Right. When someone needs help, we're happy to do that. We feel good about that. How it's not helping is because you don't feel good about it. You feel like you don't have a choice, but you don't have any good choice. It's be the bad guy one way or the other, feel guilty, feel anxiety, and so you feel stuck. You feel forced to do it.