How Connection Can Transform Recovery

If your goal is sobriety then the goal isn't to say you have to go to counseling. Your goal is you need to be sober. Then align with them. Get them to identify how they're going to achieve it or how they're going to tweak it and you're going to play that bargaining game and this is important. Act as if they are going to be successful. Don't roll your eyes. Don't say this is never going to work. This is stupid. Just say okay I'm willing to give that a whirl. I'm willing to do this. The purpose of this alignment, you guys is so that we now have some connection which is important in recovery. So be a little of that oxytin because you're aligning with them they're more likely to be honest and they're more likely to work with it. Again, if they say from the beginning this is dumb, I'm not doing it then none of this is going to hold. Okay?