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How Lives of Functional Addicts Fall Apart #addictionrecovery #gettingsober #sobercurious

12 Sept 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment Amber Hollingsworth explains how the defense mechanisms that arise from addiction can become so powerful that a person loses clear perception of what’s really happening. The internal cycle of self‑directed anger eventually spills over onto the people closest to the individual—spouses, parents, housemates, or even business partners who function as a “work spouse.” As the addiction‑driven inconsistencies continue, the relational “cracks” widen, leading to growing frustration and anger from those close contacts despite the addict’s occasional attempts to keep promises.

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When it comes to addiction though, that defense mechanism, that process can get so powerful that we really do lose sight of the truth about what's happening. You got all that going on, this whole being mad at yourself, and eventually someone else is going to start being mad at you too. Usually it's the person closest to you, like your spouse or your parent or somebody that— usually it's somebody that lives in the house with you, or maybe it's your business partner because it's kind of like your work wife or your work husband or whatever. They're very close to you. You work closely together. They're going to start getting mad at you because some of the balls are going to start to drop. Those cracks are getting bigger, and no matter how much you promise, you can't stay consistent about it. It's not like you never come through, but you're not consistently coming through.