Amber Hollingsworth (speaker) discusses how secret drinking can escalate into dangerous behaviors—specifically stopping to buy alcohol and drinking in the car on the way home—raising immediate safety risks (driving under the influence) and prompting urgent intervention from partners who feel compelled to act for safety reasons.
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When they're hiding their drinking, they're way more prone to do things like drink and drive because very, very frequently what happens is the person will get in this pattern of like stopping to get the alcohol on their way, like, let's say home from work or home from an event. And they know their partner doesn't want them to drink, so they're trying to like drink whatever they're going to drink for the night in the car on their way home before they get to the house, which then escalates the power struggle even more because now we're into like a safety issue. And so now the the partner and the spouse feels even more need to intervene and do something because it's not just, hey, I don't think this is good for you. It's like, hey, this is completely unsafe for you and for other people. And the urgency and the fear really creeps up at this point.