How To Get Your Loved One Into Treatment (Before They Lose Everything!)

There's a big difference between needing treatment and ready for treatment. And so often family members just don't understand this, because in the family member's mind, it's just, I know that you need treatment, so I'm gonna do whatever possible to make sure you get it. And that's not the most horrible of thoughts. I mean, it's really just trying to help someone else and help yourself, too, because their addiction is probably making your life miserable too. So it's also pretty understandable. But I see way too many families get their addicted loved one into treatment before they're ready for. So let's talk about what ready for it means. First thing I want you to know is ready for treatment doesn't mean want to go to treatment. That's important to know because people never want to go to treatment. So when I say you need to wait for them to get ready for it, I'm not saying you need to wait for them to say, I want to go to treatment. That could happen, but it's not likely to happen. Timing is everything. When someone goes to treatment before they're ready, what happens is they don't go in with an open mind. So they go in trying to find all the things that are wrong with treatment, trying to find all the reasons why what they're learning there doesn't apply to them. So they're going in with a bad mindset. Now, it's possible that as they get sober and stay sober for long enough and their thinking clears, that their mindset will come around. But they usually end up resenting having to go to treatment, resenting you, blaming you, saying that you made them go. And the biggest problem of all when it comes to getting someone to go to treatment when they're not really ready is, is if they haven't tried and failed their own ways of getting sober, like a bunch of times, it's not gonna work because people have to run through their own list of trying it their way. Now, if you let somebody try it their way and it's just not working long enough, and then you wait for the right moment, we'll talk more about that in a minute, and then you offer them treatment. Now you have a combination that works. Let's not make things worse by guessing. It's like a formula, and you need some variables to be there. And then when you add in the treatment variable, you have a good combination. Without that combination, you and them are likely to regret it because it's going to cost a lot of money. You're both going to feel like it didn't work. And eventually when they do get to the point where they're ready for it, they may be even more resistant to it because they're going to be thinking, I did that, I didn't like it and it didn't even help. It's kind of like an antibiotic. Timing is very important. So if you have a loved one and you know they need treatment, that's great. What you need to do is focus on setting the stage and getting them to the point to be ready for treatment. Now, I know that this is frustrating because I know you are ready for them to go to treatment. But if you don't do it this way, you're going to end up having to send them to treatment a whole bunch of times. It's going to actually draw the process out a lot longer in the long run than it needs to be. You're going to spend way more money than you had to and you're going to do a lot more relationship damage in the process. There is a better way to do it, but first things first. The first thing you gotta do is you gotta help your loved one get out of denial about their addiction. And maybe even if they realize they have an addiction, then maybe you gotta get them out of denial about the fact that maybe they need help for addiction. And that in and of itself is an important part of the process. You want to get them to a point where they're open minded about making changes and they're open minded about ways of doing that. And in the best case scenario, you want them to be involved in making decisions about the treatment process. Now, if you've got a loved one struggling with an addiction and you know they need treatment, but you don't feel like they're ready because you're listening to this video and you're like, yeah, we're not quite there yet, then you really need to take a look at our invisible intervention online program. Now this isn't an old school type of intervention where you have the person come to your house and you sit in a big circle and you read the letters. This is more of a behind the scenes kind of thing. That's why it's called the invisible intervention. This program will sort of guide you through the step by step process for how to get someone out of denial, open minded and actually ready and even asking for some kind of help or support. Now wouldn't that be a totally different ball game? The invisible intervention uses research, proven effective methods like the craft method and motivational interviewing and lots more in fact, let's take a look at some of the recent feedback that we've gotten about the invisible intervention process. Yesterday, our son agreed and was admitted into an inpatient treatment center. I know without a doubt that if it hadn't been for the invisible intervention, guidance and support, and the wisdom from you guys that our family would still be standing in a puddle of hopelessness. I enrolled in the invisible intervention in February and now it's the beginning of April and our son has made the decision to do different, to step out of darkness, shame, and into light. Now, we know that this is the first of many milestones, but we all feel a sense of unity within our family and it's reassuring that we're on the right path. Here's another piece of feedback we recently received. Last Friday, my husband had a major drinking event. In the past, I would have responded to anger, which led to significant bad feelings between us. This time, I responded by using the methods in the invisible intervention with compassion and empathy. I actually felt a bit of relief on my part, thinking that maybe this this relapse was a step closer to recovery. The difference in his response was huge. He went right to bed, but then called me in to apologize, saying that he loves me so much and that I do not deserve to be treated like this. The next morning, he said he was done drinking. This is the first time it seems his decision to quit drinking was really his decision. The next day he said he had some phone calls to make and that he was ready to start sorting out some of these problems. If you're interested in learning how to get someone out of denial and actually wanting to change, I'll put a link for you to learn more about the invisible intervention in the description.