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Married To A Functional Alcoholic?!?!

17 Oct 2022 · 1 min

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Amber Hollingsworth (speaker) addresses the frustrations of being married to a functional alcoholic, noting that the partner and others often don’t recognize the problem because daily life appears to function. She advises the spouse to stop over-covering by intentionally letting small tasks slip so the alcoholic may notice consequences — but stresses doing this with kindness, love, and empathy to avoid being blamed.

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Being married to a functional alcoholic is mad frustrating. Not only do they not realize they have a problem, but probably no one else does either. You are most likely the only person that gets it, and that's because you're the closest to the situation. So you see all the little things that do fall through the cracks. They're never going to get it as long as everything is functioning well. So you know all those little things that you remind them to do and make sure they do and cover for them on I want you to start letting those little things slip. Now, I know scared for those things to be messed up, but until you let some things be not so functional, they're probably not going to realize it. The key is to do it with kindness, love, and empathy. Way they don't get distracted and try to blame you as the problem.