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My Addicted Loved One is Stuck in a Victim Mindset - What Do I Do? #shorts

15 Aug 2022 · 1 min

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A short YouTube clip (Amber Hollingsworth) addressing how to respond when an addicted loved one is stuck in a victim mindset and engages in negative self-talk. Amber explains victim thinking serves to elicit sympathy and avoid personal responsibility, advises not to confront directly, and recommends subtly reminding the person of past successes (e.g., "remember when you did X, Y or Z") to implant a sense of capability. The clip closes with an engagement prompt (crying-face emoji in comments).

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Hey Amber, my addicted loved one is in a very deep victim mindset and has a lot of negative self talk. Listen, I know that I need to stay out of the background role, but how do I respond when he says things like I can't do anything right or I've run everything?
That kind of victim thinking really serves two purposes. First, it's designed to elicit empathy or sympathy from the other person and secondly, it's a way of letting yourself off the hook for holding yourself responsible for dealing with these problems. Now when someone's in one of those self pity zones, it's hard to get them out of it. You don't want want to come at it directly. But what you can do in other conversations and in other moments you can drop some like subliminal messaging by saying things like hey, remember when you did X, Y or Z? Or you handled this challengerly basically by doing this kind of subconsciously implanting the thought that they are strong and that they are capable. Is there someone in your life that's always playing the victim? If so, put a crying face emoji in the comments below.