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Setting New Boundaries

11 Oct 2023 · 1 min

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Short video by Amber Hollingsworth advising that you do not need to announce new personal boundaries to others; instead, implement them quietly and, if asked, explain briefly and kindly (e.g., avoiding escalation by stating you need personal space when someone is intoxicated). Emphasizes healthy, non-confrontational boundary-setting.

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Do you have to announce to someone when you have decided to implement a new boundary with them? No, because when you announce it, you're really just going to start an argument. You're really not trying to be healthy with your boundaries. You're really using that as a way to tell them that they're doing something wrong. If they're, like, really intoxicated and they come home, and then you always go in your room and read a book, they may call you out on that. And you can answer, though you can say, you know what? Because sometimes I find myself grumpy or irritable or thinking negative thoughts, and I just don't think it's fair to take it out on you. So I'm not gonna do that. If they ask you about it, you can answer it, but answer it in a kind but truthful way.