Amber Hollingsworth argues that when someone with addiction asks for another chance, stop trying to figure out if they're lying. Instead, ask yourself whether you have the emotional capacity to support them right now.
You can't keep yourself caught up in the madness of constantly trying to figure out, are they lying to me? Are they lying to themselves? Am I being a pushover here? Am I enabling if I do this? You're just confusing the decision. This decision should be made based on where you're at emotionally, not based on whether or not you think they're lying or deceiving or manipulating you or they're genuine. None of that stuff. Giving them another chance and deciding your boundaries, whatever that another chance means, whether that's like partner and you're staying in the relationship, whether that's your child and it's like keep helping them, or your brother or your sister, whatever that give another chance means to you, it really should be about you and not about them. The truth of it is it's going to take people who have an addiction a lot of tries to get better, even when they are genuine and even when they are, when they do mean it. So like, you got to decide, do I have enough emotional reserves to continue down this pathway?
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