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Stop Enabling My Husband! #shorts

15 Jul 2022 · 1 min

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A short YouTube clip (Amber Hollingsworth) answering whether one should tell others that a loved one has an addiction and is being enabled. Amber strongly advises against telling others because (1) the loved one will feel humiliated and may become furious, damaging the relationship needed to help them, and (2) the people told will likely react defensively and view it as criticism, so the move will backfire.

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Dear Amber, Is it okay to tell the people around my addicted loved one that they have an addiction and that they need to stop enabling them? This is actually a really good question and a concern that a lot of people have. But I'm going to strongly recommend against doing this, and I'm going to give you two really good reasons. First and foremost, your loved one is going to feel humiliated, which is going to result in them being furious with you and ultimately damaging your relationship, which is the most important or most valuable tool that you have in order to help them with. And secondly, the person that you're telling this information to is probably going to take it defensively because they're going to hear it as you telling them that they're doing something wrong, which is why I recommend not doing that. It is only going to backfire on you.