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The #1 Sign You Should Start Setting Boundaries

6 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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Amber Hollingsworth, in a short YouTube segment, identifies resentment—especially when it "brews"—as the number-one sign you should start setting boundaries. She links resentment to over-functioning and rescuing others, describes how helpful behaviors can become draining over time ("compassion fatigue"), and notes people often delay setting boundaries because they worry its too late.

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So there are other indicators, but I think resentment, if you feel it brewing, is probably the number one sign and symptom. It probably means you're over functioning in some area, or you're rescuing other people in a way that you don't want to. And a lot of times the way this starts out is in the beginning, you do it because you want to do it and because you want to be helpful. But then it feels like it keeps happening, and then you get compassion fatigue. And whereas you might have been okay with it the first time or two, on time 129, you're done with it. And somewhere along the way you probably should have set a healthier boundary. But you got stuck because you figured, how am I going to set it now?