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The Right Way To HELP AN ADDICT #addictionrecovery #gettingsober #sobercurious

22 Aug 2025 · 0 min

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In this brief advisory segment, Amber Hollingsworth explains how to support a loved one who is trying to reduce their alcohol consumption. She emphasizes the importance of letting the person take responsibility for their own drinking choices and to experience failure as a learning opportunity, while cautioning against setting them up for failure or enabling them. Specifically, she advises against actions like ordering shots for them at a bar, which can worsen the situation and shift blame onto the supporter. The core message is to provide support without fixing the problem for them, striking a balance between assistance and autonomy.

Letting them do it is important and letting them fail at it is important. Now, I don't want you to set them up for failure. Like if your loved one's trying to drink less, I don't want you to go to the bar and keep ordering shots and speed it up because then they won't learn another lesson. They'll just blame you. They'll be like, that was your fault. So you can't make it worse for them, but you don't have to fix it for them either.