The Role of Spouse in Addiction Recovery

Nelisha says, my ex's family is in deep denial about my addict or alcoholic husband's addiction. Despite all of the messages and abuse, he's likely to stay stuck if the family system can't see it. Despite two DUIs, loss of job, legal issues. Yes, and this is a very common issue when you're dealing with someone who's in this functional category, because as the spouse, the person that lives with them, you see it and other people don't. What they see is this person's functioning, but then they see you being mad at this person, and that leads the family to think she's the problem. And then they think if they're drinking too much, it's like she's driving them to it. And it is so maddening, as the. The spouse to be in that situation, because the addicted person will split them against you. They'll go over there and talk. She's just never happy. She's always criticizing me. And then that gets the other family members to validate even more and all that kind of stuff.