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The Truth Behind Codependency

27 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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A short video in which Amber Hollingsworth critiques the theory that people subconsciously seek addicted partners due to growing up around addiction. She argues instead that codependent tendencies lead people to stay longer and sacrifice more in relationships with addicted individuals, rather than actively 'picking' them.

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There was some sort of theory thrown around at that time that because she had grown up with an alcoholic father or an alcoholic family, somehow there was this thought that we subconsciously seek out an addicted person to marry. Which I don't really believe that theory at all. It's not so much that you're picking a person with addiction to have in your life, or like drawing them in like magnets, as some people might want to think, but more if you tend to have codependency, you probably keep them around longer and self suff sacrifice longer and find yourself stuck in a situation with someone who has an addiction longer than someone else who maybe would have set a boundary earlier.