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The Tug of War Between Control and Connection

17 Jan 2024 · 0 min

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A short talk by Amber Hollingsworth about the human tension between the need for connection and the need for independence/control. The speaker states that everyone needs both connection and freedom; when people feel overly controlled or smothered they often pull away or act out. The content frames this tension as a common relational dynamic.

No one likes to be controlled. We all have a need for connection, and we all have a need for freedom and independence. Now, some of us lean heavier on one or the other, but we need both. And when we feel overly controlled, overly smothered, it doesn't tend to go well. We tend to act out. It's when we start to push another person away, because that's a basic human need, that independence, freedom, control kind of thing, along with the connection.